You’ll always find people who are poles apart. Just like I’m sure you’ve met a lot of people who are overly positive, you must’ve met some people who are overly negative. The latter kind is never happy in life. Something is always going wrong in their life. Even if everything is fine, they can’t accept how everything can be fine. They desperately seek reasons to be upset about. While seeing on the bright side all the time is not reasonable, looking at the dark side and forcing yourself to be comfortable with it isn’t the wisest thing, either. Finding middle-ground or finding a balance is important for your sanity. Just like it’s unhealthy to be happy all the time, it’s unhealthy to be upset all the time too.
There are people who really suffer from clinical depression, and then there are people who say they are depressed/hint towards being depressed to gain attention. Since sadness or depression is something people seem to easily relate to, there are pages who will take advantage of this faulty human behavior. These pages post incredibly sad quotes and use words like suicide and depression very loosely. While there can be pages that are genuinely giving out help, there are pages that try to glamorize depression. This twisted, false perception makes people more and more ignorant about the concept. Social media is not exactly the place to seek help.
You know how sometimes you don’t know how you feel, and someone asks if are you sad, and the next moment you find yourself pondering about everything that’s not going well with you? When we have such empty moods, where you don’t really know how you feel and you come across a sad quote that triggers something that happened to you long ago, you immediately fall in this loop of thinking and overthinking about that time. Then you go to that page, you read more quotes, you convince yourself into believing that all of the quotes are written just for you. I think we all did that around the age of 14-16. Some people never come out of that phase. They survive on those quotes and make it a mission to feel miserable for the rest of their lives.
Now, the issue isn’t just how pessimistic some people are, but also how much they try to drag you with them. Some people just have a negative influence in your life. They know your weak spot, and they use it against you. The moment you finally start accepting that everything isn’t as bad as it seems, they are there to remind you that that in fact isn’t true, and you’re just as miserable as they are.
Like a lot of other people, I am someone who believes in the strength of the vibes people give out. When you are around certain people, you just feel cheerful for no specific reason. Just being around them just makes you believe that things are just fine. Then there are people at the other end of the pole. They remind you of all the reasons you should discard all your hopes. You just feel restless and anxious for no reason. It’s just their presence and their habit of making things look worse.
For instance, you are at a seminar, and you aren’t sure if you’re enjoying just yet. You are sitting next to someone who doesn’t seem to be enjoying. They turn around and give you this tired and annoyed look; or they’ll also whisper to you how badly they want to get out of it. Now that unsure feeling you have is starting to shape into what that person is emitting. Suddenly you feel just as bored as them, and slowly as they start becoming impatient, you feel yourself getting impatient and restless as well. The seminar might not be something of their interest, but you went because you wanted to learn something. Now you’ve given up your original motive and your vibes are syncing with the vibes of the person sitting next to you. If it was someone who appeared to be equally interested as you, you would’ve been merry and patient throughout. It’s just the vibe certain people carry along with them that make you feel a certain way.
Surrounding yourself with these ungrateful and negative people is toxic for your well being. They are the kind of people who just want to complain but don’t want to do anything to make their situation better. You’ll notice their problems aren’t real, and they blatantly ignore positive things in life. Make sure the vibes you give out are relatively positive. There’s enough negativity, we don’t need more.