This is a topic very close to my heart.
It is important for people to realize why having a will power to get out of their miseries is absolutely crucial. It is very easy and comfortable to just dwell into the sad spiral our problems push us in. Once you have dwelled for long enough, the routine that you follow later is the most effortless routine on the planet. Not getting out of the bed (regardless of whether you’ve been sleeping or not), thinking about random stuff, eating whenever you feel like it, not doing anything that requires getting out of the house, not paying attention to yourself, not caring about your appetite, or anything that happens in the surroundings, and all the other things. You must’ve filled the blanks by now. My point being, it’s easy to not do anything at all without realizing just how unhealthy it is. You start feeling every possible negative emotion there is. I had mentioned in one of the previous blogs that the very first step to changing your situation is to accept something has gone wrong. As long as you keep thinking your problems require no attention, you’ll never realize when those problems will start inhabiting in the deep trenches of your mind.
If you catch yourself slowly adapting to the above mentioned routine, the first thing you need to do is introspect. Just how bad is the issue? Our life is divided into a lot of areas, some of them being our career, our family and friends, our love life, our academics, stuff that comes under our personal space – ranging from our hobbies to our feelings about ourselves, etc. Recognize which area it belongs to. This will help you to confine this issue to where it belongs, so it does not spread out and negatively affect the parts that have nothing to do with it.
Once you understand that the issue isn’t the end of your life, you know you have more things to do, and more activities to look at. Compensation doesn’t always have to be a wrong thing; you can compensate for the bad parts by focusing a lot more on the good parts. You can do that at least till you have your normal routine back. One important thing to remember while compensating is that you absolutely shouldn’t ignore the issue altogether, just in order to focus on other things.
While you are trying to remind yourself that the rest of the areas of your life are still important, you should also let yourself feel all the emotions as they come to you. Your issues are still gonna bother you, all I am saying is while you deal with them, you should not forget that there is more to life than just that one thing. You should be grateful about the other parts being comparatively smoother. You are going to feel upset a lot of times while dealing with it, allow yourself to cry, vent, and be angry in the process.
Ignoring or distracting yourself does not mean you are dealing with it, not letting your entire life fall apart because of that one thing while you permit yourself to feel and accept it does.
If you ignore the issues at this stage, they are slowly gonna reach a point beyond repair. Observing yourself and knowing yourself enough to recognize something is going wrong is important, so you can catch yourself falling prey to this negativity and take the required action on time. Nothing is the end of your life, and every low helps you explore yourself more. Make your life productive, even if sleeping all day and ignoring your health sounds easy. It is all temporary, and this routine will push you further if it is not looked after. These are just a few things that usually work out for me. I realize that a lot of problems need a lot longer to get over, but I also insist you to be grateful about everything else. Be persistent enough to bring the change you actually need, even if that means you have to force yourself to commit to it.